three keys to a successful marriage
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Tuesday, February 06, 2018
By Michael David Photography
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You cannot be a wedding photographer and not love marriage. It's like being a chef and hating food. So it goes with out saying that I love marriage - the good and the bad. "The bad," I am referring to is really in the way you look at it. Because it's the bad times that help you appreciate the good times. It's the bad times that help your marriage grow.
 
Over the 5 years that I have been a husband, I have learned a couple things about being married. I've learned it's not easy and it takes more work than one would think. I keep these three keys always on my mind, as I constantly strive to be a better husband to my wife than I was the day before. Hopefully these marriage tips can help you as well!
 
1. You Also Are An Idiot
Before you look at your wife or husband and let them have a piece of your mind, just remember one thing - you also are an idiot. I remember before April and I got married there was a book I started to read called When Sinners Say I Do. The basis of the book is to remember that you are also a sinner and we need to have grace with our spouse. 
 
If there is one thing I've learned as a wedding photographer, is that early is on time, on time is late and late is unacceptable. My wife April is late for everything and loses her phone at least 3 times a week. How do you NOT know where your phone is? I would be lying if I said it didn't drive me crazy. It does. Then I remember something. There are many things that I do that drive April nuts. I can also be an idiot at times. April is the most patient individual I have ever met. She is so tender and loving and never throws anything in my face. So before I make a contrite comment to my wife about her being late (again) or losing her phone (again), I pause and remind myself that I too can be an idiot at times and she is truly amazing. 
 
2. Love Less
If you reflect on everything that is bad in life or a sin it comes down to one thing selfishness.
 
Have I been selfish in my marriage? Guilty as charged. It's so easy to want to make “ me “ time or think my wife/husband will take care of it. It's so easy to be selfish and so hard to love yourself less. Loving yourself less, thus being less selfish, will have such a lasting impact on your marriage. 
 
3. Date Night
Marriage can be awesome and stressful and when you throw kids into the mix it becomes a whirlwind of emotions. During your marriage, you'll experience the highest of highest and lowest of lows. In that time, we sometimes forget WHY we married our husbands and wives. Over time, we lose that connection and we almost don't know how to reconnect.  That's where date night comes in. My favorite thing in the world is leave the kids with the grandparents, take April by the hand and spend some good quality time together whether it's go out to a nice dinner or have a picnic at a free outdoor concert. It's so important to take that time to reconnect with your partner. 
 
Now that you have the three keys to a successful marriage, go unlock that door!
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