It was the happiest day. Steph and Brian had just said their vows a few hours earlier. They were celebrating with friends and family. They were having the time of their lives. It was truly magical.
Then Brian received some terrible news from a guest at the wedding. He walked to the dance floor for the last dance, reaching out for Steph as he approached it. Holding back tears, Brian clenched Steph as fought to keep his composure. The news he had received was devastating and totally out of the blue. I remember looking through the viewfinder and seeing him almost gasping for air and fighting back the tears. I asked his sister if everything was OK. Unwittingly, she explained it away as him being a sensitive guy. I knew right away that was not it. Brian held on tighter, unable to contain his emotions.
The news Brian received had nothing to do with him and his wife as a couple, but it also had everything to do with them. The news was outside of their control. Here’s the “everything” part: This was the first time as a married couple that Brian needed 100 percent of his wife. This was the first time Steph had to put aside her feelings and focus all of herself on Brian and his needs. What they were experiencing on the dance floor was something most married couples don’t face until years into their marriage. As a couple or a spouse, it so important to be there for your spouse. To know they will be with you through anything is an amazing feeling.
Knowing of the bad news, and seeing Brian and Steph, I couldn’t help but think this was actually good for them, though the timing wasn’t ideal. It’s always good when you can be in a moment and only have your spouse. Even if it’s a situation like this having nothing to do with you as a couple, it's times like these that will bring you closer and deepen your love.
As the song ended, I asked Brian if I could pray for him. We went in the back and had a great prayer session. As a photographer, there have been a couple times where I’ve had the opportunity to pray for the couple at the wedding. It’s a privilege I don’t take lightly. I’m thankful God gives me the words to speak. The bottom line here is this: Always be there for your spouse. Hold them close and love them deeply.